How to make marriage counselling work and other frequently asked questions.

What does relationship counselling involve and how long will it take?

I believe that every couple is unique and there is no “one size fits all” manualised approach. Rather than treating symptoms only to have them return in six months, I seek to really get to know you both as individuals and as a couple, with a focus on alleviating the underlying causes of your relationship distress.

You can find a detailed description of how we will work together to create a new direction for change on my Process page.

How long are your couple therapy sessions?

Working with me is different. It’s not about meeting for one hour every week. I’m really less focused on the length and number of sessions and more on doing whatever it takes to help couples create the relationship they most desire.

I offer an initial 2-hour Couples Intensive intensive, where we dig deep into the relationship, exploring your vision for the kind of relationship you want to create and how you each aspire to show up in that relationship. We will also look at what is standing in the way of this and what needs to happen to set a clear direction for change.

Once we have charted a course, I will invite you to commit to a programme of therapy, usually meeting for a minimum of 6 sessions over 90 days plus 2 follow-up sessions. These sessions will be a combination of couple and individual conversations.

Do you offer online couple counselling?

I was working online long before the pandemic! I have offered secure and confidential online sessions for many years, helping couples throughout the world using ‘telehealth’ technology. All sessions are currently online using secure Zoom technology.

How much does couple therapy cost?

I offer reduced fee packages for 2-hour Couple Intensive and Decision Intensive programmes plus a 8-session Relational Recovery programme. All these programmes include a unique combination of couple and individual time. I will provide details of the fees for these programmes during our complimentary consultation. How I can help

Do you accept insurance?

I do not accept insurance or submit documents to insurance companies.

Can I attend relationship therapy without my partner?

It only takes one person to make a significant change in the relationship. If your partner is reluctant to proceed, don’t let this stop you from seeking help. Often one partner is more on board than the other, so it may be necessary for you to make a start on your own. Working with individuals is an integral part of my approach and I strongly encourage you to take the first step.

Do you have experience with same-sex couple counselling?

I have extensive experience working with LGBTQ couples. I embrace and respect sexual and relationship diversity including kink and polyamory. I focus on the relational space between the couple and on treating the whole person regardless of sexual orientation or identity. I invite LGBTQ couples to reach out and contact me.

Do you work with high profile couples?

I’m aware of the unique challenges faced by high profile clients during a relationship crisis and how critical it is to ensure absolute discretion and privacy at all times. I have tailored an element of my services to specifically meet the needs of high profile Individuals and Couples.

What if I am ‘on the brink’ of divorce and can’t decide to stay or go?

If one of you is uncertain about whether you want to remain in the marriage or to separate, this is called a ‘mixed agenda’. This can be a difficult place to start couples therapy so I offer an alternative approach for this situation called a Decision Intensive. This is a 2-hour intensive session combining a blend of couple and individual time. This process is not about ‘fixing’ your problems but is designed to first help you understand how you got to this point and to then gain clarity and confidence about the decisions you are now faced with together.

What if we have no big problems but something is missing?

Surprisingly, many couples come to see me and say there’s nothing really wrong…” we’re not fighting or having communication issues, but I feel there’s something missing…I want more sex, better sex, more connection, more fun or more freedom…” or perhaps, “I want us to be better parents…” Whatever it is that may be “missing” can be a great place to start couples therapy. We will identify the strengths and values of the relationship and then go deeper in building on those values and powerfully connect you to new possibilities.

What if we fight in our couple therapy sessions?

It’s inevitable that our work will trigger intense and challenging feelings, which is a helpful part of the process. But I can assure you that I won’t let you waste your time and money by constantly fighting or getting out of control during our time together. I will help you both to focus on what is essential and how to make the sessions productive and helpful. I will also help you to manage your conflicts in a more effective way and avoid the usual toxic dance of blame and shame.

Have additional questions about couple therapy London?

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