Professional couple therapy with a difference.
I knew this was the work I was born to do when I was about 10 years old. However, I got diverted for 20 years as a documentary television writer and producer. I found my way back to therapy as we entered the new millennium and have been practising ever since.
My qualifications include two post-graduate degrees in family therapy and training in six different models of couple therapy. For the past 12 years, I’ve specialised as a couples therapist at my private practice in Harley Street, London as well as being a pioneer in online couples therapy, well before COVID arrived. In addition to my clinical work, I’ve also been a visiting senior lecturer with a post-graduate family therapy programme in Australia.
I integrate the wisdom of ancient traditions with insight from many schools of philosophy, psychology and contemporary psychoanalysis. My work is grounded in a collaborative and non-diagnostic approach, which respects people’s skills, abilities, resources, sexual and relationship diversity, religious beliefs and life preferences, without blame or judgement.
Setting a clear direction for change
I recognise that most couples therapy is not effective and sometimes it can even make things worse. One of the reasons for the high failure rate is that when symptoms are treated with a “quick fix”, the underlying deeper causes can remain, only to emerge a few months later with more blame and conflict. The other reason for failure is that while it may seem hard to believe, most psychologists are just not trained to work with couples and families. It’s very different from working with individuals and many mainstream therapists are either frequently out of their depth with couples or they use a “one size fits all” manualised model, which is often ineffective. I believe you deserve much better than this!
My approach is truly different. I quickly identify where you may be stuck or stalled on your relationship journey. This is usually the key to understanding the challenges you are facing and to co-creating a clear direction for change. My hopeful approach can quickly bring about changes in self-destructive patterns. Rather than focusing on each other’s perceived deficits and failings, I will support both of you to work on your own individual growth and development and to take responsibility for your own lives. You will each define the vision you seek for your relationship and how you aspire to show up in that relationship. You will then learn how to turn your vision and aspirations into a reality and make permanent change possible.
Over 95% of couples I work with report that things are better after our time together. They leave feeling empowered and more able to engage with each other. They also report that even if just one partner can master the change process, there is a significant improvement in the dynamics of the relationship.
I offer a straight-talking approach and will tell you what I think and call you out when required. I will help you to quickly turn things around and create a long-term relationship based on the best in each of you and the future you most desire!
I was really stressed and not looking forward to that first couples session. I felt my marriage was over and there was no hope. Thank you for quickly helping us to focus on what mattered most. I now have new insights into how I reacted to James and how my early experience as a child had formed the person I was in my marriage.
Over the past six months of working with you, I’ve discovered that I am in control of my own destiny and while it has taken time and effort, I’m proud to say we now have a strong healthy marriage and a beautiful baby girl and I am now in control of my life.
– Couple married for nearly 10 years – London, UK: 2018
Are we a good fit?
The type of clients who have the most success working with me are:
- High achieving and otherwise successful couples who are stuck in self-defeating patterns
- Fed up with their current situation and determined to create genuine lasting change
- Want to get ‘unstuck’, reduce arguments, conflict and anger in the relationship
- Want to gain clarity and confidence about the decision to stay together
- Appreciate insight into where self-defeating behaviour comes from and how to stop it
- Value challenging questions, direct feedback and a sense of humour
Schedule your complimentary consultation.
Please submit a consultation request and I will contact you within 24 hours.